What if your friend did what you do?

What if your friend did what you do?

Everybody has a friend/friends they count on, go to, confide in and converse with among other things.  Ask yourself these questions and think about the answers…

What if that friend treated you like you treat them?  How would you feel about that and would you be in a better or worse situation?

Could you stand to deal with them less or could they stand to deal with you more?

Do you have too much patience with them and they don’t have enough patience with you?

Should you hold them more accountable or should they hold you less accountable?

Have you been a better friend to them than they have to you? And what would they say about that?

Do they forget things that are special to you (i.e. Birthday/Anniversary) where you remember all of their important details?

When things get bad, should they “take a break” and walk away from you where as you wouldn’t walk away from them? And should you walk away from them?

We all understand that relationships (friendship, marriage, business and even acquaintances’) are never 50/50 so there is going to be constant give and take but be we also need to be honest with ourselves and ask 2 questions; 1) Have we honestly and completely accepted that person for who they are (their make-up, decision making processes or lack-there-of, etc.) and 2) Is the person they are acceptable to us?

Too many times, we have issues with others because we don’t allow, want or truly accept who they REALLY are.  We want them to be better or do things the RIGHT WAY = our way (isn’t our way always the right way?) People make mistakes, bad judgments and just F*&% Up sometimes…What do you do then? My DJ partner back in college was late for EVERY party we did on the yard which was from 9p-1a. I used to get furious because we were being paid for music starting at 9 even if it was just us and the janitor.  Every time I asked about it, the response was “Hey, nobody will be here until 10 anyway!” After a while I realized that my continued anger wasn’t going to change anything and I was mad because I wanted him to share my view.  I didn’t accept who he was…Once I did that, I stopped being mad and that was one less issue I had to deal with. I’m sure we all feel that we treat people with more positive than negative but have we ever stopped to think what our real friends think about how we treat them? What would they say if they were in the “room of truth” and weren’t afraid of hurting our feelings or having their feelings hurt? Could improvements be made if we changed our interaction with friends?

Hell No I don’t need improvements because just like everything else in my life, I know what I am doing. I don’t need to talk to anybody else (friends, family or a therapist) because I’ve got it in control.  Don’t you see how things have worked out for me in the past?

What if your friend did what you do…?